I’ve been away from the blog but not from my work

Hi Hi!

For those of you who are following my blog, please don’t despair. I have not going missing nor stopped what I am doing. It’s just that trying to get updates in with the limited time that I have is a bit of a challenge for me. If you are a Facebook Fan, than do subscribe to my Facebook Page as I post updates there pretty often.

Meanwhile do allow me to take this opportunity to wish all dads, granddads and great granddads Happy Father’s Day. While I may be a bit late in wishing all you loving mums Happy Mother’s Day, I’m still in time to wish us mums and dads Happy Parents Day! Yeah!!


What is auditory processing disorder? Can it be cured/treated?

It’s generally very nerve wreaking to be told that our child has some kind of a disorder. Worse is to be told that they have an auditory problem and yet they are not deaf. There again, will we be happier to not have got a formal diagnosis and end up blaming our child for being inattentive, choosing to do selective listening or just trying to act up when they say that it’s too noisy and they can’t concentrate?

If you try to google for auditory processing disorder, you will be scared to death with the definitions, causes and associations that come with the disorder.

To keep things simple, just remember that hearing involves a lot of stages:

1) ability to receive the message – if this does not happen then we can say that the person has a hearing problem

2) processing the message – when the processing mechanism is slow and too many messages start coming in, part of the message either gets lost in transit or gets jumbled up with another set of instruction. Typical problems that occur is when you give a set of multi-tasking instruction to your child and he/she comes back doing only part of the task assigned. The end result is an argument that he/she picks what they like to do while your child will be saying that there was never an instruction given to do something that he/she missed

3) responding to the message – if we are new to a foreign language do you not find that you need a much longer time to respond to a question or to generate a statement? Just because we are speaking to our child in their own language, it does not necessary mean that they can respond spontaneously. Just as in (2) above, if we assume then we will end up making decisions or responses for them or getting irritated that they are not responsive or rude

(4) background noise – while the sound of the aircon blowing is perfectly fine with us, people who have auditory filtering or auditory sensitivity issues will find it annoying and difficult to stay focused

There may be more to share but these are the few common ones that I encounter day-to-day.

Can all the issues mentioned above be cured? As with everything else, it depends on the condition and for the brain to be retrained it is not an overnight thing – it requires patience and practice.

Here are just a couple that comes free-of-charge ūüėĄ




So who do I go to if my child has vision problems?

Just as in all other fields, the world of optometry has evolved tremendously over the years. As a parent, I use to wonder how different is the work of an optician to an optometrist and thence on to an eye specialist. I think the easiest to understand is the work of an eye surgeon haha. Anyway, before I could be smart enough to understand the functions of those specialists mentioned above, I was told that the help my daughter should get for her vision should come from a behavioral optometrist. So WHAT does a behavioral optometrist do that is so different from the rest and DO WE HAVE such an expertise in Malaysia?

Click http://www.covd.org to understand all about behavioral optometry and vision therapy.

When I discovered my daughter’s problem, I could not find any behavioral optometrist in Malaysia so I had to resort to Australia for support the source location where my daughter’s problem was diagnosed.

That was 9 years ago. Today if you do an advanced search on the given website, you will find that we have only 2 persons in Malaysia listed and both are in private practice. So does that mean that our government hospitals have no such facilities?

To my knowledge, General Hospital Kuala Lumpur do have such a service but it is hidden in one of the departments within Ophthalmology and not listed as Behavioral Optometry. If you were to go to the others, you will get help from the Binocular Vision Unit and probably working hand-in-hand with the Occupational Therapist (OT) if just a need arises.

The challenge is to be able to get referral to these units you have to be knowledgeable about your child’s issue else all you get is a check by the optometrist and have your child sent off as having perfect vision or given a pair of normal sight correction glasses. So my advise to those who wish to use our public service hospitals is to do the online assessment eye tests from the websites that I have shared with you in my earlier post and bring that checklist with you when you take your child there. This will get you a chance to go beyond the normal eye check-up.

When speaking to one of our 2 vision therapists recently, he and I shared the same frustration. We both said that it would really make everyone’s life so much easier if more people know about vision therapy and the work of behavioral optometrists. How sad ūüė¶

Thus if anyone of you reading this post am aware of similar services available outside the information I have provided, please do me a return favor by putting it in as a comment. It will be of great help to many and I am sure those in need of this service will be thankful for your kind deed.

What do you mean when you say that my daughter’s eyes are not working properly? Optician says she has perfect vision.

That was a question that I asked Maxine (Starjump) when she first assessed my daughter. It was also then that I learnt so much more about vision i.e. eyes may not have a distance reading problem but whatever the eyes see may not necessarily be seen by the brain in the same manner or come out as we expect. As discovering this was also the major turning point of my daughter’s life, I hope that sharing whatever I know over here can serve to educate more parents about vision therapy and how difficult it is for kids to learn when their vision is not functioning properly.

The tell-tale signs that my girl had which were vision-related but not diagnosed as so were:

–¬†reading and writing.¬†Despite years of teaching and use of the various techniques that I could grab hold of, she still could not¬†spell a word beyond ‘cat’ and ‘dog’ or write a simple sentence¬†for 11 years!

– bad handwriting.¬†¬†Even if you helped her with her homework and spelt out word-for-word to her and all she has to do is write it down she still couldn’t space out her letters. They were all written with no spacing in between.

Рshe was never interested in jig-saws, could not do modelling designs using coloured pegs or anything that required her to use her eyes to focus.

– when she did manage to read or try to do some reading, she needed to use her fingers to guide her through else she would either miss a word or miss a line.

– if you gave her a piece of paper unlined and had her write you a sentence, you can see the letters going up and/or downhill but never straight.

Рyou ask her to look at something in the distance and she will either never get it or take ages and many, many descriptions to locate the object etc etc

These were her problems and your child’s could be different but if¬†you find your child struggling in her studies,¬†vision may be one of the few things that you¬†want to look at. Let’s try to eliminate the issues before we accuse the child of being lazy, careless, playful¬†or whatever other label that we can think off.

For more info, visit these websites: Vision and Learningor Eye Can Learn

You can also read Fixing My Gaze where Sue Barry for the first time in her life @ 50 years old saw things in 3-D! Seeing Through New Eyes is also another book in my collection and I am now reading Dear Jillian which I have just received with compliments from Sun Time Vision Specialist.

ZQ’s story

While us as parents want the best for our children and will share our success, joy and challenges with others wanting to know, it is not often that many will offer to do this publicly. This is primarily due to a lot of factors like culture, family environment, etc.

So when ZQ’s mum said that I could share her story with QSTi (QiGong Sensory Training Institute) and with anyone whom I think would benefit from it, I did not hesitate to take up the offer.

Here’s her story as was published by the institute on their Facebook page and additional photos that I have taken with this pretty little girl ūüôā



All children have within them the potential to be great kids. It’s our job to create a great world where this potential can flourish. – Stanley Greenspan, MD in Great Kids

When Dr Greenspan made this statement, he was referring to children as a whole i.e. those who are developing normally and those who have developmental challenges. To him a child who is diagnosed as being mentally retarded (intellectually disabled) still has hope if given the right intervention he/she begins to respond and improve over a span of 2 years. If there are such signs (and it doesn’t really matter whether he/she is a child, a teenager or an adult) there is hope.

About 8-9 years ago, I was told that the best thing I could do for my daughter was to teach her living skills as it was unlikely that things will change much since she was already 16 and IQ tests show that she is intellectually disabled.

A couple of weeks ago, I was told by her occupational therapist that preliminary results of some tests that have been conducted so far (1 more test to go) showed that she was within the normal range in terms of understanding and her ability to perform. What pulls her test scores down is her speed and this is something that can improve with practice.

This morning, I received an email from US saying that of the 3 artwork submissions that she sent in, 1 has been ACCEPTED for inclusion in the upcoming art show on October 11th and 12th at the DAX Gallery, Costa Mesa California. Hers was one of the 78 pieces chosen out of submissions from over 100 artists from many parts of the world.

Live by the words of Dr Greenspan and never give up. The journey isn’t bright and shiny all the way. It has its ups and downs and I too have the sunny and stormy plus lightning and thunder days as well. We just have to pick-up and carry-on moving for the sake of our child(ren) and his/her future.


This message goes to all mums who are followers of this blog. We are all a very special group of mums and have more PMS syndrome than the usual mums – many thanks to the mind boggling chil(ren) whom God has given us – haha.

There are days when we are high in spirits and days when we get extremely depressed. Nonetheless, enjoy today as it is YOUR DAY and keep in mind that we have the child(ren) we have today because God has a plan for us and he will be there to guide us through our tough journey.

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